pixography:

Tina Ding

pixography:

Tina Ding

fuckyeabirds:

Zoologist, ethologist, and ornithologist Konrad Lorenz, with his birds.

fuckyeabirds:

Zoologist, ethologist, and ornithologist Konrad Lorenz, with his birds.

selfcareafterrape:

I told y’all I would write this piece when I calmed down a bit. I’m not sure that I’ve calmed down on the subject any but after seeing a post claiming that not using trigger warnings is ‘helping survivors’ it’s about time I said my part.
Trigger Warnings.
What do they look like?
tw: sexual assault in the tags
'Trigger warning: this piece contains mentions of sexual abuse.' at the top.
Some people use content warnings or cw. That’s cool too.
But those things- are what we call trigger warnings.
Why use them?
Because you aren’t garbage. Unless you are- but if so, at least be honest about it. Be honest about the fact that you refuse to have compassion for a group of individuals who have already been traumatized because it either isn’t convenient for you- or because you are an indignant privileged sack of tartar-sauce.
Trigger warnings aren’t about someone being sensitive. They’re things to alert someone that a topic may contain triggering topics.
Wait- what does it mean when someone is triggered?
One of my least favorite pieces of commentary that comes from sacks of tartar sauce is ‘if you were triggered you wouldn’t be writing about it on the internet’.
I can kind of see where people come from where they say ‘triggered isn’t just being upset!’ because that is correct. But trying to police the edge of upset and triggered is very gross of you. Especially if you don’t know the person.
Being triggered can encompass a lot of things. It isn’t only having a panic attack or suffering from flashbacks. (and, fun fact, neither of those things look only one way. I’ve definitely attended classes and been on the internet while having flashbacks and flashbacks are definitely a form of being triggered. Many others can say the same about panic attacks. )
Being triggered can cause flashbacks, panic attacks, dissociation, self harm, resurgence of eating disorder behaviors and other really not fun things.
Even if your stereotypical image of what it is like to be triggered- were the only way to be triggered… I am going to let you in on a little secret… at some point- a triggered individual stops being triggered. and could then say something about it?
and taking four seconds to tag/trigger warn for common things really isn’t that hard.
What do you mean common things? are there uncommon things?
By common things I mean the biggies. The things that most people recognize can be traumatizing.
and if someone has asked you to- you should tag for ‘uncommon’ things too. Uncommon things are the things that are triggering because the person associates them with their trauma.
For instance I have a friend who is a CSA survivor who is triggered by the Rugrats. If she were to follow me on tumblr, I would tag Rugrats so that she could avoid seeing it.
But avoiding things isn’t going to solve the problem!!! They should just get help instead of asking people to tag things.
Indignant sack of tartar sauce, I know this may be hard for you to comprehend- but you do realize that it is extremely possible to be in therapy/getting help and still exist on the internet?
and that it often takes -years- for people to completely heal?
and that you are arguing against avoiding the thing and then arguing that they should avoid the internet instead. Which is extremely childish of you and selfish. 
Besides, not everyone asking for trigger warnings is looking to avoid it entirely. They’re asking so that they can be safe when they do look at those things and so that they don’t just randomly get slapped in the face with it.
and even if they were looking to entirely avoid it- unless you personally are going to be there when they get triggered and you personally are going to pay for them to get the help that they need-
you need to stop being an indignant sack of tartar sauce.
Okay?
Okay.

selfcareafterrape:

I told y’all I would write this piece when I calmed down a bit. I’m not sure that I’ve calmed down on the subject any but after seeing a post claiming that not using trigger warnings is ‘helping survivors’ it’s about time I said my part.

Trigger Warnings.

What do they look like?

tw: sexual assault in the tags

'Trigger warning: this piece contains mentions of sexual abuse.' at the top.

Some people use content warnings or cw. That’s cool too.

But those things- are what we call trigger warnings.

Why use them?

Because you aren’t garbage. Unless you are- but if so, at least be honest about it. Be honest about the fact that you refuse to have compassion for a group of individuals who have already been traumatized because it either isn’t convenient for you- or because you are an indignant privileged sack of tartar-sauce.

Trigger warnings aren’t about someone being sensitive. They’re things to alert someone that a topic may contain triggering topics.

Wait- what does it mean when someone is triggered?

One of my least favorite pieces of commentary that comes from sacks of tartar sauce is ‘if you were triggered you wouldn’t be writing about it on the internet’.

I can kind of see where people come from where they say ‘triggered isn’t just being upset!’ because that is correct. But trying to police the edge of upset and triggered is very gross of you. Especially if you don’t know the person.

Being triggered can encompass a lot of things. It isn’t only having a panic attack or suffering from flashbacks. (and, fun fact, neither of those things look only one way. I’ve definitely attended classes and been on the internet while having flashbacks and flashbacks are definitely a form of being triggered. Many others can say the same about panic attacks. )

Being triggered can cause flashbacks, panic attacks, dissociation, self harm, resurgence of eating disorder behaviors and other really not fun things.

Even if your stereotypical image of what it is like to be triggered- were the only way to be triggered… I am going to let you in on a little secret… at some point- a triggered individual stops being triggered. and could then say something about it?

and taking four seconds to tag/trigger warn for common things really isn’t that hard.

What do you mean common things? are there uncommon things?

By common things I mean the biggies. The things that most people recognize can be traumatizing.

and if someone has asked you to- you should tag for ‘uncommon’ things too. Uncommon things are the things that are triggering because the person associates them with their trauma.

For instance I have a friend who is a CSA survivor who is triggered by the Rugrats. If she were to follow me on tumblr, I would tag Rugrats so that she could avoid seeing it.

But avoiding things isn’t going to solve the problem!!! They should just get help instead of asking people to tag things.

Indignant sack of tartar sauce, I know this may be hard for you to comprehend- but you do realize that it is extremely possible to be in therapy/getting help and still exist on the internet?

and that it often takes -years- for people to completely heal?

and that you are arguing against avoiding the thing and then arguing that they should avoid the internet instead. Which is extremely childish of you and selfish. 

Besides, not everyone asking for trigger warnings is looking to avoid it entirely. They’re asking so that they can be safe when they do look at those things and so that they don’t just randomly get slapped in the face with it.

and even if they were looking to entirely avoid it- unless you personally are going to be there when they get triggered and you personally are going to pay for them to get the help that they need-

you need to stop being an indignant sack of tartar sauce.

Okay?

Okay.

“It’s funny how this little guy means more to me than anything ever could, how over the years he’s been by my side when anyone and everyone else would turn their backs.”

(Source: releasethedoves)

(Source: s-ensitivus)

(Source: ruinedchildhood)

Patience

triedmybestyouknow:

my girlfriend read
my
poetry
today

she still loves
me

she’s a keeper.

-j. altamore

April 17 · 4 notes · · Reblog

turnerkane:

"I can’t enter a room without telling everyone I’m gay. It’s a nervous thing. It’s worse with new people." {x}

awwww-cute:

Get a bunny they said, it will be cute and clean they said

awwww-cute:

Get a bunny they said, it will be cute and clean they said

buttgenie:

i want to be in a sassy group of internet friends where we all have big skype calls together and we play video games together and we do livestreams together and we tinychat together wow i want friends

(Source: kingjaffejoffer)

itsmemacleod:

want to know what turns me on?!? whispering your wifi password in my ear

marshall-omnipotence:

shuhannazy:

Poetic (X)

I fucking love Mamri

spn meme: two quotes (2/2)

“It never occured to them that, sure, maybe they never really had a roof and four walls, but they were never, in fact, homeless.”

(Source: sansasttrk)

How to Teach Your Son to Ride a Bike

triedmybestyouknow:

develop a drug problem
destroy all
his hopes
his dreams
start drinking
cheat on his mother
drink more
call him abusive names
drink more

leave

if he hasn’t
learned by then:

he won’t

-j. altamore

April 17 · 42 notes · · Reblog
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